everyday sexism live feed:
One of the saddest and to me most incomprehensible things about this is that my flatmate is a woman. She is also small, slight and does a job which requires a considerable amount of physical strength and stamina.
Bad enough, yes. Before I left his room, tears running down my face and barely able to walk, he smiled at me confidently and told me "You enjoyed that.". I just shook my head and left, unable to speak, feeling betrayed and deeply hurt- and violated.
And that's how I lost my virginity.
1. In year 12 I was one of two girls in a physics class with about 6 boys. The male teacher frequently said " I believe in treating women as if they're equal". Apparently his idea of a joke.
2. At Uni, I remember a male Professor saying of a female PhD student -" She'll end up working in a knitting shop". She finished her PhD. I don't recall him making similar comments about the male PhD students ( even those who dropped out).
3. One male colleague and one male boss who would walk up behind me and slide their arms around my waist. I never said anything. Now I would ask them to stop.
4. Same boss asked me after I had worked for him for a year if I was planning to become a Mother soon.
5. Same boss would complain to someone on the phone (within my hearing, although out of sight) that he had to pay me the same salary as a male who had a whole year more experience. We both had the same qualifications.
6. Same boss who sacked me about 4 weeks after I returned from sick leave. I believe he thought I was pregnant, which I wasn't.
7. A work colleague who always argued with me that it would be too difficult for my children (I didn't have any at the time) if I didn't take my husband's surname on marriage.
8. At Uni I was sitting in a bus stop reading and a flasher exposed himself. It was fairly traumatising for me - compounded by the fact that when I told my Mother she asked "What were you wearing?".
9. I was standing in my street conversing with a male neighbour and a female neighbour when a car of young men drove past and honked the horn and yelled out "sexy" at us.The male neighbour said to my female neighbour and I " lift up your tops and show them, girls".
10. Numerous times when walking with my teenage daughters cars of young men have honked and/ or yelled out obscenities at us
11. Some members of my family disregarding the fact that I did not change my surname on marriage.
12. In primary school I was made to sit next to the naughty boys and told to control them.
13. I had another boss whose reaction when I told him I was pregnant was "Shit" rather than the customary "Congratulations".
These are just the tip of the iceberg. Sometimes I think the people who say these things or act these ways don't realise how damn boring and predictable they are.
I still have Bill's brother (let's call him John) added on Facebook, and he got in touch not too long ago. He's marrying a Japanese woman who is moving to Australia to be with him, and he wanted to invite me and my husband on a double date with them so his wife would have someone from her own country to talk to. How about NO?